My sexual performance isn’t what it used to be
In fact I can’t reliably get it up or keep it there…
What can I do?
Sex is no longer an instant, automatic pleasure. You can no longer trust your body to do what is has always done in sex. Either the desire or the erections just aren’t what they used to be. It’s frustrating and demoralizing and is enough to put you off sex altogether, for it’s easier to hide it rather than face this embarrassment.
That’s the bad news.
The good news is that with a little curiosity and some lateral thinking you can have a better sex life than you’ve ever had before.
Yes, we did say better.
We’ve found that truly great sex isn’t a young man or woman’s game.
When we’re young we’re testosterone driven and it’s all about getting to the goals or horniness, erection and orgasm. And it’s great. It’s fabulous.
When we move past the hormone driven lust there is something even more special waiting for us. It’s making love from the heart. It’s opening to something deeper and more extraordinary, including all of who we are not just our body and our sex drive.
Once our hormonal drive reduces, and this happens for everyone around menopause (for both men and women) sex becomes less of a drive and more of a choice.
A choice to connect in new ways, to explore new experiences. Moving from physical to more energetic sex. Which can be equally, if not more satisfying. Even fulfilling.
All we need to do is to drop wanting it to be the way it used to be.
And to be willing to go inside of ourselves to find where our sexual power truly lives.
The choice is up to you.