Many women believe they don’t actually have a Gspot, because sometimes they like to hide…
However it’s more likely to be because it hasn’t been awakened yet.
Read on for more info about this gorgeous, but slippery little sucker…
Our newly released book, “Coming Together” has more detailed information, including helpful diagrams on this topic…
The Gspot or a UFO?
Knowledge of a woman’s sexuality has grown over the years. We have come a long way from believing a woman’s expression of her sexual 
energy to be a “hysterical paroxysm” requiring some form of “treatment”, or that she wasn’t capable of sexual enjoyment, but had to “bear these things” for the benefits of motherhood.
Nowadays the modern woman is claiming her rights to “her” orgasms and finding new and creative ways of experiencing them.
Yet awareness of a woman’s G-spot is a relatively recent phenomena. For many years it was thought to have been as real as a “UFO”.
Medical science “discovered” the spot in the mid 1950’s, by a Dr. Grafenburg. Yet, this spot that provides unlimited possibilities for women to further know, enjoy and accept their bodies, their sexuality and themselves has been around for thousands of years. It was well accepted in ancient times of the Goddess, when sex was seen as a sacred practice. The Gpsot, or Sacred Spot as it used to be known, disappeared in the years women’s sexuality and power has been repressed by society. Even the clitoris disappeared from medical literature for a time…
In fact, learning and understanding access to this powerful source of feminine life force energy is a foundation practise of Tantra, particularly in the heart centred Tantra approach we take at Oztantra.
This is a guide for any man…..
How is a Gspot different from a clitoris?
At a practical level yes, every woman is born with a G-spot. It exists as a mound of erectile tissue a half to full finger length inside the upper wall of her yoni (vagina), often not as far in as you might think. The gspot is not actually inside the yoni, but resides in the upper wall and can only be physically felt by touching when it has been “activated” or aroused.
When this happens, it feels like an area of raised ridges, a little like an almond which becomes more distended and easier to feel when aroused and sometimes can even feel like a small pearl.
The clitoris is an external organ that is largely responsive to direct stimulation and has an expected enjoyable physical response.
The G-spot is internal and has a much greater range of responses. In, or around this physical location, is the energy point of the Gspot and activating this is what takes the experience to a whole new level of ongoing waves of pleasure, emotion, even what can be described as spiritual experiences.
We tried to find an image of an ecstatically radiant post Gspot orgasmic woman to include here but it seems this quality can’t be faked, it only comes from the real thing, hence there are no radiant female images on this post!
A Gspot can be very intense!
Some women have spontaneous Gspot (or vaginal) orgasms through stimulation with the lingam (penis) or vibrator/dildo.
Some women have 
clitoral orgasms only, some have a mixture of both vaginal and clitoral, with or without the lingam/vibe/dildo.
For many other women, the G spot still remains an unknown experience. and generally takes a greater level of self awareness and even self acceptance in the woman for it to awaken in her. Our Power of Yoni workshop for women helps her understand and prepare herself for awakening to and enjoying this greater feminine intensity.
For her Gspot is part of her emotional body, one of the major energy centres in her body and experiencing it can bring an emotional intensity that can be unexpected, and occasionally even frightening, if she does not understand it.
But with knowledge and practice a woman (by herself or with a trusted lover) will find awakening this centre can allow her to access new levels of satisfaction in her sexuality that go a long way to fulfilling the intense emotional longings and frustrations that she usually hopes her partner can fulfil for her.
Knowing her body in this way can allow her to share with her partner from a place of wholeness rather than a craving for fulfilment from him. As learning from an “owner – operator” is the way to go….. if you’re wondering, struggling, confused or simply desire to learn more, contact Annette today for a confidential chat.
How can a Gspot be awakened?
To awaken the Gspot, use your (or ask your lover, or use a Gspot vibe) index or pointer fingers, going in to your Yoni (vagina) as far as you can, up behind the pubic bone, then curl your finger back a little.
Hold your finger in stillness for a few minutes and focus your mind on the spot where the finger is, take some gentle deep breaths and see if you can “connect” with it. Squeeze your pc muscles and feel how this moves the spot onto your fingers.
Making sure your using plenty of lubrication, tap gently and move your finger in a “come hither” movement, side to side, or up and down on the area, or simply hold still on it with sufficient pressure.
Sufficient pressure is enough to actually feel the tip of your or your lovers finger. Keep asking if she is feeling anything and keep moving or pressing.
Some will feel something straight away and others may take quite a while and several attempts to activate the good stuff. If you feel nothing keep gently focussing on the spot and breathing, as this helps to heal the numbness. You might find there are some emotions that arise in you, don’t shut them down, allow them to move through you. If you find pain in your GSpot, that can feel like stinging, burning, even like razor blades, this too is blocked emotion, so breathe and feel through this too. Making the sound of the pain can help. Don’t judge yourself negatively, this is part of your sexual healing journey.
Keep believing that this amazing spot is real and exists is important, and just keep at it.
At all times during this exercise, just breathe deeply and focus on feeling your body.
Get to know your GSpot’s size, shape and moods, it can take much more pressure than your clitoris.
Feeling like you need to pee is usually one of the the first signs you’ve found it! Relax here and keep going. (Get up and have a pee if you feel you need to and come back).
Breathe deeply, relax and feel with no expectations.
Sometimes your lover can place the fingers of his other hand just above your pubic bone and press down gently, as this can help him find the spot by anchoring it between his two hands.
Some of the reasons the Gpsot can still be missing in action:
-It can be missed completely when not aroused because it is flat inside the vaginal wall. If you can’t feel it, just believe in it, visualize it, relax and keep exploring.
– It takes time. A Gspot can take longer to arouse than a clitoris (around 20-40 mins) and if this part is missed then nothing happens.
It can be good in the early stages to take special time just to focus on it by itself, rather than as foreplay…
Once awakened the GSpot can be instantaneous, although it will always have it’s off days, because it is part of your feminine soul.
-Arousal can be short circuited by focussing entirely on clitoral orgasm, (they have different nerve supplies). So if you are looking to explore your Gspot it’s best to build stimulation in the clitoris but stop well short of orgasm. Then begin to focus on the different sensations and possibilities in the Gspot.
Clitoral orgasms are usually short and intense, but the Gspot is slow burn. It may take a while, but when it gets going, it will seriously rock your world…. (and his too…)
-Whole body tension is another short circuit. Often a woman will tense her body to create a clitoral orgasm, this is the opposite of what the
Gspot requires. So when you feel arousal happening remember to relax, let your muscles go and deepen your breathing. Let go of pushing or performing.
-Over use of a vibrator can either short circuit sensation by being too much too soon, or can toughen and numb the spot, reducing it’s sensitivity.
– Weak and/or tense pc muscles (the muscles between our legs that we feel when we try to stop the flow of urine). These muscles can suffer from lack of use, over strain etc. Begin to contract and release these muscles as often as you can each day to build their strength. Make sure you isolate and just contract the pc, not your stomach or buttocks. And relax the muscle fully in between squeezes.
-Sometimes a Gspot feels totally numb and so we think it doesn’t work and give up. With attention and love as describes above it can be fully activated, keep practicing.
-Sometimes the Gspot is painful when touched so we avoid it. This pain is old stored emotion from unhelpful beliefs about your sexuality or difficult past sexual experiences. With attention and love it can be released.
-The Gspot is an emotional energy centre and the feelings aroused can be unfamiliar, intense and so they are shut down. Understand that these emotions are an important part of who you are, an energy that will become pleasurable when accepted. Allow any emotions that arise just to be felt or expressed. Breathe into your heart and bring love into your Gspot.
– To fully experience the Gspot you need to trust your body, and surrender into your sensations, letting go into them with every out breath.
– A woman can shut down if her partner is uncomfortable with her intensity. Take your time, talk about it and both of you build a relationship to this part of her. And men challenge yourself to learn to last longer, check out this page to both last longer in lovemaking AND increase your pleasure. It will help you build the sexual relationship (and relationship) of your dreams.
Female Ejaculation
Ejaculation is fluid that is expelled from a woman’s prostate gland when the Gspot is aroused. Yes, she too has one, in the erectile tissue around the urethra, which the Gspot forms part of. Awakening the Gspot may also stimulate this ejaculation, which can be just a few mls and she may just think she got wet all of a sudden, or it may be anywhere up to a cup of liquid. Fear of urinating will often prevent her from following through and simply allowing this natural and delicious experience.
Because little is known about female ejaculation it can be viewed as urine by the woman and/or her partner. But it actually has a different chemical composition, smell and taste from urine. It is believed to help lubricate the urethra from the acidity of urine, reducing infections and also sweetens the acidic environment of the yoni to enhance sperm survival.
In tantric terms it is known as Amrita, the nectar of love and is thought to be a Gift from God, and is seen as a source of rejuvenation. Letting go of Amrita can be an exquisite bliss that is beyond words, leaving a woman and her partner renewed. But a woman can often hold back in fear of “wetting herself”. In fact it is very difficult for a woman to pee when highly aroused, just like it is difficult for a man to pee when he has an erection. Knowing this can help a woman to relax and let Amrita flow when she has the urge to “pee” that comes from stimulation of her Gspot. It can happen separately from orgasm, or with orgasm.
In conclusion
Gspot orgasm is not another goal for a woman to reach. Ejaculation is not a “party trick” to perform on demand to please her partner. It is an opportunity for her, if she chooses, to know, love and accept herself at a deeper level. To know and accept her feeling self. To experience herself in her Goddess energy. It is a journey of personal awakening.
Learn at Home…
These discovery or awakening skills are easily and regularly taught through our Online Course from the convenient privacy and security of your own home.
We teach both you and your partner, or just you, without the need for nakedness, where you practise in the privacy of your home, with our back up support as required.
Contact us and discover for yourself how easy this can be for you….
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