Many women believe they don’t actually have a Gspot, because sometimes they like to hide…
However it’s more likely to be because it hasn’t been awakened yet.
Read on for more info about this gorgeous but slippery little sucker…
Our newly released book, “Coming Together” has more detailed information, including diagrams on this topic…
The Gspot or a UFO?
Knowledge of a woman’s sexuality has grown over the years. We have come a long way from believing a woman’s expression of her sexual 
energy to be an “hysterical paroxysm” requiring some form of “treatment”, or that she wasn’t capable of sexual enjoyment, but to “bear these things” ie sex for the benefits of motherhood.
Nowadays the modern woman is claiming her rights to “her” orgasms and finding new and creative ways of experiencing them.
Yet awareness of a woman’s G-spot is a relatively recent phenomena, for many years it was thought to have been as real as a “UFO”.
Medical science “only” discovered the spot in the mid 1950’s, by a Dr. Grafenburg (and maybe why its much easier to say “G” spot…). Yet, this very real and Sacred Spot, as it’s known in Tantra, has been around for thousands of years and provides unlimited possibilities for women to further know, enjoy and accept their bodies, their sexuality and themselves.
In fact, learning and understanding access to this powerful source of feminine life force energy is a foundation practise of Tantra, particularly in the heart centred Tantra approach we take at Oztantra.
This is a guide for any man…..
How is a Gspot different from a clitoris?
At a practical level yes, every woman is born with a G-spot. It exists as a mound of erectile tissue a full finger length inside the upper wall of her yoni (vagina), often not as far in as you might think. The gspot is not actually inside the yoni, but resides in the upper wall and can only be physically felt by touching when it has been “activated” or aroused.
When this happens, it feels like an area of raised ridges, a little like an almond which becomes more distended and easier to feel when aroused and sometimes can even feel like a small pearl.
They are still part of the same genital landscape, with one external and the other inside the vagina.
The clitoris is an organ that is largely responsive to direct stimulation and has an expected enjoyable physical response.
The G-spot however has a much greater range of responses as in or around this physical location is the energy point of the Gspot and activating this is what takes the experience to a whole new level of ongoing waves of pleasure, emotion, even what can be described as spiritual experiences.
We tried to find an image of an ecstatically radiant post Gspot orgasmic woman to include here but it seems this quality can’t be faked, it only comes from the real thing, hence no female images on this post!
A Gspot can be very intense!
Some women have spontaneous Gspot (or vaginal) orgasms through stimulation with the lingam (penis) or vibrator/dildo.
Some women have 
clitoral orgasms only, some have a mixture of both vaginal and clitoral, with or without the lingam/vibe/dildo.
For many other women, the G spot still remains an unknown experience. and generally takes a greater level of self awareness and even self acceptance in the woman for it to awaken in her. Our Power of Yoni workshop for women helps her understand and prepare herself for awakening to and enjoying this greater feminine intensity.
Her Gspot is part of her emotional body, one of the major energy centres in her body and experiencing it can bring an emotional intensity that can be unexpected and occasionally even frightening.
But with knowledge and practice a woman (by herself or with a trusted lover) will find awakening this centre can allow her to access new levels of satisfaction in her sexuality that go a long way to fulfilling the intense emotional longings and frustrations that she usually hopes her partner can fulfil for her.
Knowing her body in this way can allow her to share with her partner from a place of wholeness rather than a craving for fulfilment. And…..learning from an “owner – operator” is the way to go…..so if you’re wondering, struggling, confused or simply desire to learn more, then contact Annette today for a confidential chat.
How can a Gspot be awakened?
To awaken the Gspot, use your (or ask your lover, or use a Gspot vibe) index or pointer fingers, going in as far as you can and up.
Tapping the “roof” with your finger with sufficient pressure that it can be felt..( ASK her…)
Making sure your using plenty of lubrication, tap gently and move your finger in a “come hither” movement, or side to side or up and down on the area or simply hold still on it with sufficient pressure.
Sufficient pressure is enough to actually feel the tip of your or your lovers finger. Keep asking if she is feeling anything and keep moving or pressing.
Some will feel something straight away and others may take quite a while and several attempts to activate the good stuff.
Believing that this amazing spot is real and exists is important, and just keep at it.
At all times during this exercise, just breathe deeply and focus on your feeling body around your sex center.
Get to know its size, shape and moods, it can take much more pressure than your clitoris.
If you feel like you need to pee is usually one of the the first signs you’ve found it!
Squeeze your pc muscles and feel how this moves the spot onto your fingers.
Have your attention firmly on this part of your body.
Breathe deeply, relax and feel with no expectations.
Sometimes if your lover is looking to connect with your Gspot he can place the fingers of his other hand just above the pubic bone and press down gently, this can help him find anchor the spot between his two hands.
Some of the reasons the Gpsot can still be missing in action:
-It can be missed completely when not aroused because it feels almost flat. If you can’t feel it, just believe in it, visualize it, relax and keep touching.
– It takes time. A Gspot can take longer to arouse and if this part is missed then nothing happens.
It can be good in the early stages to take special time just to focus on it by itself, or you direct your partner…
Once awakened it can be instantaneous, although it will and can have it’s off days.
-Arousal can be short circuited by focussing entirely on clitoral orgasm, (they have different nerve supplies) so if you are looking to explore your Gspot it’s best to build stimulation in the clitoris but stop well short of orgasm, then begin to focus on the different sensations and possibilities in the Gspot.
Clitoral orgasms are usually short and intense, but the Gspot is slow burn, may take a while but when it gets going, it will seriously rock your world…. (and his too…)
-Whole body tension is another short circuit.
Often a woman will tense her body to create a clitoral orgasm, this is the opposite of what the
Gspot requires, so when you feel arousal happening remember to relax, let your muscles go and deepen your breathing.
-Over use of a vibrator- this can either short circuit sensation by being too much too soon, or can toughen and numb the spot, reducing it’s sensitivity.
– Weak and/or tense pc muscles (the muscles between our legs that we feel when we try to stop the flow of urine). These muscles can suffer from lack of use, over strain etc. Begin to contract and release these muscles as often as you can each day to build their strength. Make sure you just contract the pc, not your stomach or buttocks. And relax the muscle fully in between squeezes. Squeeze along to your favourite song.
-Sometimes a Gspot feels totally numb and so we think it doesn’t work and give up. With attention and love it can be fully activated, keep practicing.
-Sometimes the Gspot is painful when touched so we avoid it. This pain is old stored emotion from unhelpful beliefs about your sexuality or difficult past sexual experiences. With attention and love it can be released.
-The Gspot is an emotional energy centre and the feelings aroused can be unfamiliar, intense and so they are shut down. Understand that these emotions are an important part of who you are, an energy that will become pleasurable when accepted. Allow any emotions that arise just to be felt or expressed. Breathe into your heart and bring love into your Gspot.
– To fully experience the Gspot you need to trust your body, and surrender into your sensations, letting go into them with every out breath.
– A woman shutting down if her partner is uncomfortable with her intensity. Take your time and both of you build a relationship to this part of her. And men challenge yourself to learn to last longer, check out this page to both last longer in lovemaking AND increase your pleasure. It will help you build the sexual relationship (and relationship) of your dreams.
Female Ejaculation
Firstly, the fear of ejaculation. This is fluid that is expelled from a woman’s prostate gland when the Gspot is aroused. Yes, she has one in the erectile tissue around the urethra, which the Gspot forms part of. Awakening the gspot may also stimulate ejaculation, which is a similar sensation to urinating, and this fear will often prevent her from following through and simply allowing this natural experience.
Because little is known about female ejaculation it can be viewed as urine by the woman and/or her partner. But it actually has a different chemical composition, smell and taste from urine. It is believed to help lubricate the urethra from the acidity of urine, reducing infections and also sweetens the acidic environment of the yoni to enhance sperm survival.
In tantric terms it is known as Amrita, the nectar of love and is thought to be a Gift from God, and is seen as a source of rejuvenation. Letting go of Amrita can be an exquisite bliss that is beyond words, leaving a woman and her partner renewed. But a woman can often hold back in fear of “wetting herself”. In fact it is very difficult for a woman to pee when highly aroused, just like it is difficult for a man to pee when he has an erection. Knowing this can help a woman to relax and let Amrita flow when she has the urge to “pee” that comes from stimulation of her Gspot. It can happen separately from orgasm, or with orgasm.
In conclusion
Gspot orgasm is not another goal for a woman to reach. Ejaculation is not a “party trick” to perform on demand to please her partner. It is an opportunity for her, if she chooses, to know and accept herself at a deeper level. To know and accept her feeling self. To experience herself in her Goddess energy. It is a journey of personal awakening.
Learn at Home…
These discovery or awakening skills are easily and regularly taught through our Online Course from the convenient privacy and security of your own home.
We teach both you and your partner, or just you, without the need for nakedness, where you practise in the privacy of your home, with our back up support as required.
Contact us and discover for yourself how easy this can be for you….
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