Wow, is this what I’ve been missing??

Meet someone like Bill…

An ex corporate businessman now running a motel complex I am in my late 50’s looking for a bit more excitement in my life. I already had a great sex life with my wife Cathy and thought more was about becoming a better lover for her. I’d heard about this Tantra thing and had even had a couple of sessions with Cathy and a Tantric Goddess, which were terrific, close to a threesome and pretty eye opening I have to say. But the exercises were hard to remember and harder to keep up.

I found I’d been looking in the wrong place. My focus had always been on Cathy’s pleasure, which I like to think I’m pretty good at. I didn’t realize how much I’d been missing in myself.  With a big personality in my life I’m always on hand to solve problems, mostly for others. I am used to long hours, being in charge and getting things done.  When it came to sex I was still a great doer and provider, yet I learned I was giving my energy away without fully enjoying it myself. In fact I didn’t even think much about my own actual pleasure, I got most of my satisfaction from doing the job well. Graeme and Annette taught me to take my focus back home to myself. Cathy just nodded and smiled like she knew something I didn’t, she thought it was a great idea too!

That night I proceeded to have the best lovemaking of my life! Taking my time I felt pleasure in my whole body, and all the way through lovemaking rather than just at the end, and in totally new places. I experienced that feeling my own pleasure actually gave Cathy great pleasure as well, which was a revelation to me… my heart was totally open.

I realized how I gave my energy away without actually enjoying myself in many areas of my life. I’d believed that if I didn’t push myself to work hard I would achieve nothing- this voice in my head was my fathers, and his father before him. Buried even deeper was a fear of being seen as not being good enough that working hard for others covered up. There were positive changes I’d wanted to make in my life but I hadn’t been able to get them over the line. Now with all this new energy in me to work smarter not harder, looking after myself as well as others, they’re a done deal!

How incredible that all this started with sex!

To maintain client confidentiality Bill’s story is a composite of Oztantra client stories.