Sexual Healing with Oztantra……..
Sexual Healing is a sacred and powerful healing for both men and women in healing long held and deep seated wounds in our sexual personality.
Both Annette and Graeme work in this highly specialised field, either separately or together with clients.
Not only are we fully aware of the benefits this type of healing can bring to an individual or relationship, but also of the integrity and clarity required to work in this field.
Read about Graeme’s journey

Benefits that may be experienced include reconnecting heart and sexuality, discovering your inner sense of self and greater self empowerment, moving beyond past hurts, removing blocks to more sexual pleasure, learning how to last longer, finding your Gspot and many more.
We are both experienced in dealing with deeply held trauma’s from sexual, emotional and physical abuse.
For women, we provide and hold a clear, safe and agenda free space that in itself is healing.
Providing a space for a woman to open to her self rather than to her healer. (read article below…)
This is important for us as well, as we work hard to hold a space clear of personal needs and agenda’s.
For men, being met in this place in an open and respectful way is often a new experience and on many occasions a simple counselling session( and even by skype…) has achieved major shifts.
Men are met in this place in an honouring way, with out shame or agenda. Simply honouring the man in his sexuality is a new experience for most men.
In all our work, we teach these skills to couples to learn, experience and expand more of their sexuality together.
Our couples Retreat is an ideal way to learn these skills in a safe and held space, where you only work with each other.
Regardless of where you’re living, via our Online Tantric Relationship Course, you can access Oztantra’s skilled expertise from the security and convenience of your own home.
We also have much more information freely available on this website, plus podcasts, video’s and webinars. If you desire a conversation for more information about what may be possible for your own particular situation, please call or email either of us.
Skype sessions are an effective and convenient way to start your healing journey.
Graeme’s skype address … graeme.sudholz (or click the skype link on the right side of this page…)
Call us TOLL FREE 1800 TANTRA (826 872), email link
This is a blog written by Graeme that was circulated early 2014 …
As a man, as a sexual man who is in long term and committed relationship with a sexual woman, I find it challenging to hear and read the current debate around sexual healing by male “healers” with women.
With this in mind, I have decided to speak out as a professional who works with men and women, both singles and those in long term relationships.
I have had many sessions with men and women, both as couples and singles, and most importantly on my own or with my partner Annette. Either way, following up with a debrief about my experience with her.
I am also speaking from my place in my long term relationship with Annette, who is my lover, teacher, critic and business partner. How I show up with her is my measure in how I am with a client, as it is also with her and her clients. The relationship we share is a powerful space of deep clarity, challenge and compassion, and a gift that we both bring into our work.
We are “owner operators” in every sense of the phrase…..
Don’t get me wrong, I have on many occasions had sessions that involved varying degrees of nakedness and sexual touch. One thing that I have not heard, in any of this “debate” around male sexual healers, is just how powerful a sexual healing experience can be for a woman, where she is fully clothed and not being physically touched. To feel safe, and sexual in this way is invited by a space that is clear, intense and healing, where the healing is in simply experiencing a deeply personal loving open hearted man in his sexuality, without personal agenda. Where the opening is to herself rather than to the man.
The myth is that sexual healing must involve nakedness or sexual touch, even sexual penetration. In fact, I believe the exact opposite can be true in most cases. It can be healing simply for a woman to be penetrated by clear masculine sexual heart space and remain fully clothed. In this space of not having sex, yet feel her sexuality opening as she opens her heart to herself in a space held by deeply personal loving heart space. Experiencing the difference between “universal” love and “deeply personal” love is a big part of what sexual healing is about.
Remembering, that most women have been hurt by unconscious men, and in too many cases, this masculine shadow or unconsciousness can also be disguised as “healing”. The abuse happens when the woman opens to the man rather than herself, this is where she loses herself and can be taken advantage of. Clothed or not, a woman opening to herself will soon feel and tell a man with a hidden agenda where to go with it!
Over the years through our work, I have had many conversations with men “desiring” to learn the art of sexual healing and with out exception my direction with them is to learn about their own sexual heart connection first.
How many women out there want to do something sexually empowering for themselves, but don’t want to have to bare their souls to more of the same, especially if it is even more cleverly disguised as “healing”.
As a woman simply trust this feeling first and foremost, and maybe instead ask for a session that brings YOU in touch with your own awareness, being in your feeling body, then your heart and from that place, connecting with what it is you desire.
Graeme – Oztantra © 2014