That diminish their capacity for pleasure and satisfaction.
- His need to achieve external success through goal-oriented performance gets in the way of real success.
- Rather than it being selfish for him to fully feel his own pleasure, it is vital to good lovemaking.
- That openly feeling his pleasure will not detract from his lover’s pleasure, it will increase it.
- That his continued need to achieve success through his lover’s pleasure can feel like pressure (even control) to them. This increases the likelihood of fake orgasms and limits true felt pleasure for BOTH.
- When he gives himself permission to really feel his pleasure it allows him to feel more connected to himself. Which significantly reduces the pressure to perform that he often feels. This transforms his intimate connection into something truly magical.
- It is NOT selfish, or wimpish, for a man to let go of striving for the end goal and take the time to slow down and feel more along the way. For when a man is more familiar with feeling his pleasure it means he is more present and more in his body. This invites more potency, allowing his pleasure to arise, rather than his having to force it. Which can feel like letting go a of big burden, and precious feelings of freedom.
- Chooses to be present in his body, opens up men’s full potential for pleasure during the whole love making session. Rather than in just his usual few seconds at the end. It’s the beginning of his ability to become multiply orgasmic. With practice this allows a man to be more present with his lover, as well as his own pleasure, no matter how intense. His lover will eat this up!
- Women actually enjoy feeling a man feeling his pleasure, not just performing. As it means she can feel more of him open and connected to her, similar to him enjoying feeling her pleasure. Knowing this can help him feel himself more easily without disappearing.
- Feeling himself and being at ease in his own pleasure allows him to enjoy that place in himself where he just loves to give from. Where the giving comes direct from his heart, rather than his ego. It’s truly yummy for the receiver!
- Focussing more of his own pleasure takes away the burden of having to ‘provide’ his partner with theirs, whilst he is missing out. Although there are layers in this, ultimately each person is responsible for their own pleasure. This takes away the subtle (and not so subtle) manipulations that can occur in trying to make pleasure happen through the other person, allowing more intimacy and authenticity = even more pleasure.
- When he’s connected with himself he will automatically be more aware of the subtleties of his experience and where his partner is at. It makes him less reliant on having the right ‘technique’ and more available to intuitive understanding which is much juicier.
- Both lovers benefit from the resonance in the matching energy vibrations of pleasure (entrainment), where the pleasure in his body literally invites the pleasure in theirs to awaken, creating more pleasure for both.
- By not focussing on performance in sex men experience greater satisfaction, leaving them less needy of, and controlled by a need for sex.
- And lastly, both open to the possibility of a more intimate, loving and deeper connection that happens through being embodied and available in your feelings, senses, emotions and pleasure that needing to perform takes away.
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