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Tantric Sex for Men – Oztantra

February 9, 2015 By Annette & Graeme Leave a Comment

Tantric sex for men

In my journey of self exploration and discovery, I have had many realisations, and one of them is tantric sex for men is mostly unexplored and poorly understood.

Actually, the more I discover about Tantric sex, the more I realise I don’t know, as I also believe that learning  Tantra is finding that place of limitless and connection  that exists in all of us.

I have also reached an understanding that with heart and sexuality connection where there exists potential for significant increases in pleasure and heart felt satisfaction with your partner.

What this actually looks and feels like for a man, is in his ability to be able to  fully tap into and connect with his own awesome power in all aspects of his life.

From the Boardroom to the Bedroom

This potential exists not only in the bedroom but from the boardroom to the clubroom and every aspect in between.
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For a man connecting with his heart is also him connecting with his warrior self, as they reside in the same place in a man, in his heart.

Because, when a man confronts his fears and gives himself permission to fully connect his heart and sexuality also includes accessing and owning his warrior self. Warrior intensity comes from the power in a man’s heart, and the healthy masculine warrior is pure heart.

Our couples Retreat is the perfect forum for any man to learn these skills with his partner.

Warrior Sex

In recent times, the term “warrior” has had a bad rap, as so much of man’s unhealthy shadow is seen as coming from this aspect and most men have fear about this and hold this part of Bring out your intimate warrior to get the most out of tantra. Tantric sex for men.themselves in denial. As men, denying our warrior makes our unhealthy shadow aspect even deeper and much harder to manage.

If your wondering what this unhealthy masculine looks like, then examples are all around us. Watch any news media and nearly all the story’s are about money, sex or power. These aspects are all part of the healthy masculine as well, but the healthy masculine is heart connected which totally changes any outcome. Money, sex and power without heart is behind majority of conflicts, economic difficulties and environmental challenges. It takes heart connected masculine energy to change these problems, and that is the healthy warrior.

A man in his heart connected with his warrior is a man that will stand up and protect his heart, himself, family, community and his place in this world.

It is a challenge for any man to connect with and honor this part of himself, as so much of our cultural political correctness supports the shaming of this essential aspect of healthy and sacred masculinity. It takes real courage for a man to stand up for what he believes is right, as quite often this requires him challenging societal norms. Healthy masculine will also challenge and call out  wounded feminine behaviours but in a way that is healing for woman.

Connecting with his warrior self is a journey deeply into himself and must include experiencing himself with other men in healthy masculine space.

A man connecting with his warrior is accessing his depth of inner masculine strength that all men have, yet most carry shame or confusion about connecting with this essential part of masculinity. Warrior is the healthy part of masculinity that grounds and holds safety for himself and those around him, especially when a man decides to open his heart and connect with his sexuality and with his partner.

Men have been shamed out of this place and have confusion as to what healthy masculine sexuality looks and feels like.

It is this healthy connection with his inner strength or warrior that will hold him grounded and safe in opening his heart in intimate sexual connection in his relationships.

Relationship Sex is the Best Sex

I also believe that for most men, this intensely pleasurable sexual potential is best achieved and maintained in committed and long term relationships, where all these aspects can flourish and develop.

This special and healthy gift of sacred masculinity requires nurturing, expression and connection.

Man’s fuel of desire for sexual connection comes from his open loving heart, and this is best achieved for most men in healthy relationships.

Healthy sexual desire is heart connected and heart energized for any man, and if in doubt ask a woman what she most desires in her man and it is usually to feel his loving open heart, to feel his power in loving presence.

Yet, for a man to tap into this sexual potential is much more than simply being physically capable, for it requires emotional awareness, connection and courage to really be able to connect to his true sexual heart capability.

This connection is internal and doesn’t require any mystical or esoteric skills from outside.

For any man, simply being emotionally aware and understanding and fully grasping and accessing his own vulnerable heart sexual connection is where it all begins.

Sexual Power

Strength of connection to his sexual power will require a man to be fully connected and grounded in his body and heart. This is not about being overtly sexual but simply recognizing and owning his heart intensity and sexual power. In this place, it is important for any man to claim and own his masculinity in how it is for him, and most often this may look different to how a woman would desire it to be. If in doubt, simply consider the differences between the romance industry for women and the porn industry for men. Both have their appeal, but don’t really appeal to the other. This is where men quite often become derailed in their journey into their masculinity, as they believe they have to play “the game” to get what they want from the opposite sex. This is why it is important that any man’s journey into his masculinity  requires plenty of healthy masculine connection.

When heart and sexuality are accessed and activated and connected, a man begins to feel his true power. It is in this place that man can truly connect with his inner warrior and feel his own strength and power surging through his body. Making love from this place is like nothing else, for a man can be fully in his power and feel it surging through his body, or simply be quiet and in stillness.

Mastering the skills of separating ejaculation and orgasm requires a man to feel his power, as men require access to their feeling of inner strength to manage and hold ejaculation energy successfully with out needing to shut it down. Ejaculation energy in a man is pure heart and is the energy force that creates life and requires clarity and focus to manage this energy into full bodied pleasure.

Ejaculation energy is pure heart energy with the power to create life.

Tantric lovemaking is about creating more of everything, including ramping up your ejaculation heart intensity and multi orgasmic energy and this also applies to women as well. In tantric lovemaking, this combined energy is truly breathtaking.

This masculine ejaculation heart energy creates heat for intense full body multiple orgasms, which further deepens open heart and inner connection and vulnerability with the power of sexual connection holding all this together.

It takes a man who is fully in his power to hold himself in this place and meet his partner in lovemaking.

The stronger heart connection that any man can create for himself in his relationship, the more loving pleasure he will experience during sex.

And, so will his partner, for a women desires to feel this part of her man, and if in doubt, ask her…..

In this place of accessing his masculine warrior strength during lovemaking will also impact on his partner in a deeply loving and subtle way. A woman will feel met, held and safe enabling her to open into her sacred surrender.

Gspot

A women’s Gspot is an energy point that is highly sensitive and receptive to this masculine energy and both can easily experience deeply loving, satisfying heart connected lovemaking with very little movement.

This is tantric lovemaking in its simplest form.

Are you a Spiritual Vigilante?

January 5, 2015 By Annette & Graeme Leave a Comment

A Spiritual Vigilante is someone who creates unnecessary suffering…

by seeking to avoid healthy shame, seeing it all as toxic.

As you move into the New Year of 2015 you probably set intentions to be healthier and happier, eating and drinking Cheesecake for a Spiritual Vigilantemore consciously, getting in some regular exercise and feeling good about yourself in the process. The same is true of our spiritual selves. We seek to become better at relating with others more consciously, doing our best to move beyond limiting thoughts and draining dramas whilst becoming a little more enlightened along the way.

Sometimes these good intentions can backfire into ‘spiritual vigilantism’ where, just like with food, drink and exercise we constantly stalk ourselves to the point of madness with every lack and imperfection becoming a cause for horror. With this singular type focus on our own behaviour we can end up making ourselves much more wrong than necessary. For unlike eating and exercise relating doesn’t happen in isolation from others and we can’t always see our behaviours clearly as they’re part of a multi levelled playing field.

Despite spiritual claims that everything in life is our mirror is this simplification 100% true or are we still influenced people conscious relatingto a greater or lesser degree by our interaction with others? No matter which it takes much practice to bring clarity and ease to our relating.  The messiness of sorting out whose stuff is whose (even if it’s all ours) is both the challenge and the joy of relationship. And the healthy shame that goes with recognizing where we stuff up is an important part of the process. Just like the shame that serves as a motivation after eating cheesecake or lazing in bed to get us back on the health wagon so the shame of saying or doing something that hurts another (or ourselves) inspires us to make a wiser choice next time.

Healthy shame plays an important role in our spiritual wellbeing. However being a spiritual vigilante and taking on too much unnecessary blame onto ourselves creates a toxic shame instead, a deep cesspool of heaviness that stops us from being all we can be. This kind of shame can become deeply addictive.

Paradoxically the opposite is also true. By seeing ourselves as always working hard to ‘get it right’, by over Spiritual Vigilante not an Angelspiritualizing ourselves we play out a covert, but equally addictive cycle of appearing blameless- to ourselves and those around us. This is really an elaborate way of avoiding feeling the associated shame of being wrong. Of being human occasionally.

It is important to observe and reflect on our behaviour but too much of this can be like a reverse form of self punishment where in trying to be spiritual we forget that we are human. And we forget that being human is also divine. It is healthier to give up our attachment to our enlightened spiritual persona and accept that we are not perfect, feeling our healthy shame and practicing the Art of Grace. Grace is the practice of loving ourselves when we feel most unworthy and trusting in its awesome power to shift us back into awareness of our Higher Self where choices come with ease and openness.

The same technique works well for eating cheesecake and sleeping in!

Is your Gspot missing in action?

December 10, 2014 By Annette & Graeme 54 Comments

Many women believe they don’t actually have a Gspot, because sometimes they like to hide…

However it’s more likely to be because it hasn’t been awakened yet.

Read on for more info about this gorgeous but slippery little sucker…                                 

The Gspot or a UFO?

Knowledge of a woman’s sexuality has grown over the years. We have come a long way from believing a woman’s expression of her sexual Is your Gspot missing in action? energy to be an “hysterical paroxysm” requiring some form of “treatment”, or that she wasn’t capable of sexual enjoyment, but to “bear these things” ie sex for the benefits of motherhood. Nowadays the modern woman is claiming her rights to “her” orgasms and finding new and creative ways of experiencing them. Yet awareness of a woman’s G-spot is a relatively recent phenomena, for many years it was thought to have been as real as a “UFO”. This very real Sacred spot provides yet more possibilities for women to further know, enjoy and accept their bodies, their sexuality and themselves.

How is a Gspot different from a clitoris?

At a practical level yes, every woman is born with a G-spot. It exists as a mound of erectile tissue 1-2 finger joints inside the upper wall of her yoni (vagina), often not as far in as you might think. The gspot is not actually inside the yoni, but resides in the upper wall and can only be physically felt by touching when it has been “activated”. When this happens, it feels like an area of raised ridges, a little like an almond which becomes more distended and easier to feel when aroused and sometimes can even feel like a small pearl.  They are still part of the same genital landscape, with one external and the other inside the vagina. The clitoris is an organ that is largely responsive to direct stimulation and has an expected enjoyable physical response and generally has a limit to the no. of orgasms it can experience. The G-spot however has a much greater range of responses as in or around this physical location is the energy point of the Gspot and activating this is what takes the experience to a whole new level of ongoing waves of pleasure, unlimited multiple orgasms, emotion, even what can be described as spiritual experiences.

I tried to find an image on ecstatically radiant post Gspot orgasmic woman but it seems they can’t be faked- there is a quality she has that only comes from the real thing, hence no female images on this post.

A Gspot can be very intense!

Some women have spontaneous Gspot (or vaginal) orgasms through stimulation with the lingam (penis) or vibrator/dildo. Some women have Gspot is spiritual awakeningclitoral orgasms only, some have a mixture of both vaginal and clitoral, with or without the lingam/vibe/dildo. For many other women, the G spot still remains an unknown experience. and generally takes a greater level of self awareness and even self acceptance in the woman for it to awaken in her. It is part of her emotional body, one of the major energy centres in her body and experiencing it can bring an emotional intensity that can be unexpected or even frightening. But with knowledge and practice a woman (by herself or with a trusted lover) will find awakening this centre can allow her to access new levels of satisfaction in her sexuality that go a long way to fulfilling the intense emotional longings and frustrations that she usually hopes her partner can fulfil for her. Knowing her body in this way can allow her to share with her partner from a place of wholeness rather than a craving for fulfilment.

How can a Gspot be awakened?

To awaken the Gspot, use your (or ask your lover, or use a Gspot vibe) index or pointer fingers, with plenty of lubrication, to tap gently, move your finger in a “come hither” movement, or side to side or up and down on the area, or hold still on it and just breathe. Get to know its size, shape and moods, it can take much more pressure than your clitoris. If you feel like you need to pee you’ve found it! Squeeze your pc muscles and feel how this moves the spot onto your fingers. Have your attention firmly on this part of your body. Breathe deeply, relax and feel with no expectations.

Sometimes if your lover is looking to connect with your Gspot he can place the fingers of his other hand just above the pubic bone and press down gently, this can help him find anchor the spot between his two hands.

Some of the reasons the Gpsot can still be missing in action:

-It can be missed completely when not aroused because it feels almost flat. If you can’t feel it, just believe in it, visualize it, relax and keep touching.

– It lacks time. A Gspot can take longer to arouse and if this part is missed then nothing happens. It can be good in the early stages to take special time just to focus on it by itself. Once awakened it can be instantaneous, although it will always have it’s days on and off.

-Arousal can be short circuited by focussing entirely on clitoral orgasm, (they have different nerve supplies) so if you are looking to explore your Gspot it’s best to build stimulation in the clitoris but stop well short of orgasm, then begin to focus on the different sensations and possibilities in the Gspot.

 -Whole body tension is another short circuit. Often a woman will tense her body to create a clitoral orgasm, this is the opposite of what theGspot is the heart of woman Gspot requires. So when you feel arousal happening remember to relax, let your muscles go and deepen your breathing.

-Over use of a vibrator- this can either short circuit sensation by being too much too soon, or can toughen and numb the spot, reducing it’s sensitivity.

– Weak and/or tense pc muscles (the muscles between our legs that we feel when we try to stop the flow of urine). These muscles can suffer from lack of use, over strain etc. Begin to contract and release these muscles as often as you can each day to build their strength. Make sure you just contract the pc, not your stomach or buttocks. And relax the muscle fully in between squeezes. Squeeze along to your favourite song.

 -Sometimes a Gspot feels totally numb and so we think it doesn’t work and give up. With attention and love it can be fully activated, keep practicing.

-Sometimes the Gspot is painful when touched so we avoid it. This pain is old stored emotion from unhelpful beliefs about your sexuality or difficult past sexual experiences. With attention and love it can be released.

-The Gspot is an emotional energy centre and the feelings aroused can be unfamiliar, intense and so they are shut down. Understand that these emotions are an important part of who you are, an energy that will become pleasurable when accepted. Allow any emotions that arise just to be felt or expressed. Breathe into your heart and bring love into your Gspot.

– To fully experience the Gspot you need to trust your body, and surrender into your sensations, letting go into them with every out breath.

– A woman shutting down if her partner is uncomfortable with her intensity. Take your time and both of you build a relationship to this part of her. And men challenge yourself to learn to last longer, check out this page to both last longer in lovemaking AND increase your pleasure. It will help you build the sexual relationship (and relationship) of your dreams.

Female Ejaculation

Female sexuality and the gspot-The fear of ejaculation. This is the fluid that can be expelled from a woman’s prostate gland (yes, she has one in the erectile tissue around the urethra, which the Gspot forms part of) when the Gspot is aroused. Because little is known about female ejaculation it can be viewed as urine by the woman and/or her partner. But it actually has a different chemical composition, smell and taste from urine. It is believed to help lubricate the urethra from the acidity of urine, reducing infections and also sweetens the acidic environment of the yoni to enhance sperm survival. In tantric terms it is known as Amrita, the nectar of love and is thought to be a Gift from God, and is seen as a source of rejuvenation. Letting go of Amrita can be an exquisite bliss that is beyond words, leaving a woman and her partner renewed. But a woman can often hold back in fear of “wetting herself”. In fact it is very difficult for a woman to pee when highly aroused, just like it is difficult for a man to pee when he has an erection. Knowing this can help a woman to relax and let Amrita flow when she has the urge to “pee” that comes from stimulation of her Gspot. It can happen separately from orgasm, or with orgasm.

In conclusion

Gspot orgasm is not another goal for a woman to reach. Ejaculation is not a “party trick” to perform on demand to please her partner. It is an opportunity for her, if she chooses, to know and accept herself at a deeper level. To know and accept her feeling self. To experience herself in her Goddess energy. It is a journey of personal awakening.

Positive thinking, relationships…and Aristotle?

March 7, 2014 By Annette & Graeme Leave a Comment

Positive Thinking in Your Relationship

Happiness – can it become an addiction…….

…. or an itch to scratch us away from our truth? We are bombarded with positive messages (especially if we hang around Facebook) on how we can think ourselves to happiness, that pursuing happiness in itself is a worthwhile goal. Taking steps to createpeople conscious relating a happy, positive state of being can allow us to be more motivated and proactive in our lives and able to interact more effectively with people, powerfully so when we can fully embody it. Yet there is danger in seeing happiness in isolation from the depths of who we are, especially in relationship with another. When we can change our state from negative to positive by thinking happy thoughts like “There is always, always something to be grateful for” or focussing on positive beliefs such as “Think abundantly Energy Follows Intention” we create a subjective feel good state inside of us. This gives us the illusion of control, that our “happy” reality can exist independently of what else is going on both within, and around us. The truth is we do not exist purely in one state in isolation from all others, we are more complex beings than that. So it is not the happiness itself that becomes the problem but more the context we choose to create it in, where it becomes a burden, addiction or escape. To balance the impact of isolated happiness we can add an old fashioned virtue identified by Greek philosopher Aristotle (yes, we’re talking old here!): that of Phronesis or practical wisdom.

Phronesis can be described as the deliberation of a situation followed by action that is in the interests of things good and bad with the human being.

In other words I can seek to create a state of happiness in myself but how well is it going to serve me, and what is the impact on those around me?

Phronesis invites us to ask:

– Am I using my happiness to positive effect?
– Am I using it to avoid feeling something that is uncomfortable in myself that it would actually be helpful for me to feel into and understand?
– Am I using my happiness to avoid relationship, by not fully engaging with another, avoiding empathy, not able to be with their pain or avoiding taking responsibility for my actions in relation to another?
– Is my need to be in control limiting my ability to be vulnerable in People get into tantra for personal growthrelating to another?
– Am I denying the value of that person and that relationship? It is never nice to share openly with another and not feel heard, or even worse to be judged ie. don’t chose pain, choose happiness!
– Am I limiting the love, support & happiness  that can come from really connecting in that relationship?
– Am I creating helplessness/depression when I fail to think positive thoughts if I think I can?

Happiness has more than one layer and Phronesis is taking action on it.

Choose happiness as an act of self love, embody it fully, enjoy it, spread it around. Don’t use it to escape your deeper truth which may not be happiness in this moment, or to beat yourself over the head with if you can’t find it right now.

From our Tantric perspective we know that Tantra is about the union of two polarities into oneness, of the masculine and feminine into the one whole. So in Tantric terms we could say that Phronesis is the union of the feminine aspect of feeling + being ie. the experience of happiness with the masculine aspect of awareness + action creating a unified whole. 

Embracing Conflict

December 19, 2013 By Annette & Graeme Leave a Comment

Embracing Conflict- Strategies for Growth

Find yourself pulling away from conflict, trying to avoid it, giving yourself away or shutting down to do so? If so you are limiting yourself and your relationships as conflict can be a place of growth and connection.
Here’s how:

1. Understand that conflict is a necessary part of the cycle of growth, rather than something that is wrong, that we need to resist or shut down. For no matter how much we meditate on peace and compassion, or try to eradicate our so called negative traits conflict still happens. Think of conflict like the disturbance of the soil as a new shoot starts to penetrate to earth in its search for the light.

2. What happens in conflict is intensity and a feeling of chaos, of being in the unknown, a sense of overwhelm or being out of control. Where we see the other as separatConflict abounds e from us, even seeing them as a perpetrator. So although conflict is part of our growth cycle in the midst of this intensity our inbuilt survival system- the primal part of our brain- will create an instinctive fear, flight or fight response in us, causing us to  freeze, pull away to protect ourselves, or fight back. Occasionally these responses ARE appropriate, more often they are a limitation to growth and change.

3. Counter intuitive though it may appear, when this intensity arises use the more evolved part of your brain in the cerebral cortex to notice the fear response in your body- the tensing, contracting in fear, churning in the gut, wanting to pull away, go blank or disappear. Take a deep breath and let it out slowly, helping to override this contraction, for if there is enough room to breathe you must be safe. Decide if you are at real risk if you stay. If not, focus on soothing this feeling by telling yourself everything is ok, it is just your response to intensity but that doesn’t make the conflict itself wrong. More deep breaths will continue this process, bringing you back into a place of connection.

4. Thank the other person for raising the point or issue. Most people don’t find it easy to challenge; or are feeling hurt and angry, either way they are taking a risk so sending them gratitude and making where they are at ok has the effect of soothing both them and yourself. You are not agreeing with their point of view but creating a path of connection.

5. Reflect for a moment on your beliefs, needs and challenges in the situation and acknowledge them to yourself. Let go of the need to do anything about them. At this point it is not necessary to express them to the other person. It is important to have your own stance in any situation as this builds self awareness and self esteem, reducing the likelihood of your being overly accommodating at your expense. It also makes is easier to hear theirs.

6. Allow yourself to fully open and hear what the other person is saying, without needing to agree with it, just to hear it and get clarity to ensure you are really gettingHeart to Heart communication where they are coming from. Keep your attention on your breath and your heart as you listen. This does 3 things- it means you are dealing with what is real rather than what your fear based brain might hear in its place of trigger. It allows the other person to relax as they feel really seen and heard. It also allows you to remain in connection with the other. This creates a little space in the conflict.

7. Offer to share your about your own understanding of the situation now. As you share let go of any need to try and get what you want, or to invalidate the other person’s situation. This creates a bigger space.

8. Through allowing and understanding a creative space is born. You have moved beyond the place of reaction and can now respond instead. With an open mind to possible solutions discuss the situation with an intention of creating a win/win solution.

9. If you are not aware of what your own stuff is in the situation decide if you need to come back to the person later, after you’ve had time to sit with it. Decide if you can hold on to yourself whilst you hear them, or if you feel too escalated still. If so you need to do both later. This might take just a few minutes, or it might take longer to get your own clarity. Your ability to get to your own truth in the situations is vital to your ability to hear the others.

10. Practice makes better. Regular practice of turning inwards to become aware of  your internal reality on a regular basis, along with reflection on who you are and what is happening in your life through meditation, mindfulness and reflection support you in being able to respond more effectively in moments of conflict.

Live life to the full11. If you find yourself going into a fight mode rather than a freeze the same steps apply, make your anger ok. Choose to feel it rather than making it wrong. Let it move through you. Use it as a tool when you express your part of the situation, use “I” language, own it without dumping your anger onto the other, let the heat of it be felt in you but from a place of control rather than explosion. Anger is the energy of change and can be a powerful ally if used well. You can also check underneath your anger, especially if anger is a recurrent theme, and if something bigger is driving the anger response such as fear or shame. If you become aware of these self soothe as above.

As you can see there is much that can be learned about yourself, as well as the other through conflict.

 

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Why do people get in to Tantra?

September 23, 2013 By admin Leave a Comment

People get into Tantra for many and varied reasons:

As you can see Tantra is multi-dimensional and has much to offer those seeking healing in their relationships, intimacy and sexuality. Some of the reasons people choose Tantra are:People get into tantra to heal sexual shame

To acknowledge our sexuality

This may be as simple as giving ourselves permission to have sexual feelings without making them wrong, allowing ourselves to experience total, blissful happiness, with fully alive bodies. This allows us to reclaim a part of ourselves which we may have kept hidden in ignorance, fear, guilt, shame or in the need to perform.

Many people describe the experience of bringing their sexuality out of the closet as a coming home to who they really are, of becoming ‘whole’.

To enhance lovemaking

Understand sex good for you as it reduces tension and stress, produces chemicals that enhance bonding and wellbeing, boosts immunity, keeps you fit, stimulates hormonal balance, with pleasure reducing chronic inflammation- the source of many disease processes. But it takes a minimum of 30mins for us to get the full benefits of these hormonal shifts so become a master of your sexuality rather than a slave. In learning the ‘secrets’ of tantric sex, including the Cosmic Cobra Breath, participants learn to make love for longer through a combination of relaxation and arousal rather than just stimulation, allowing greater pleasure, intimacy and heart connection. Stop performing and start enjoying.

Men learn to slow down, eliminating performance anxiety, whilst containing their energy and building to a greater level of intensity and pleasure. Women learn to relax and open, taking the time to let go of their social conditioning not to feel sexual, and enjoying their innate capacity for ecstasy. Sex at this level is healing for the body, mind and soul.

To heal relationship problems

Tantra involves learning skills in trust and intimacy, to allow ourselves to be really seen by our partner. It involves being fully present with them, communicating with our hearts open, our egos dissolved, and seeing them as an aspect of the Divine. Couples learn how to be real with each other and find the magic in this, rather than looking for the unsustainable Hollywood fantasy. We also look at integrating our masculine and feminine aspects and as we consciously play with these polarities our capacity for love and pleasure is deepened. We believe this is one reason to seek and maintain a conscious, committed relationship both with ourselves and our partner. Our couples only Ecstasy and Intimacy Retreat supports couples to experience greater levels of connection, joy, love and pleasure.

For Personal Growth

Tantra begins with love of the self. Any doubts, fears, guilt or shame we may have about ourselves manifest in the body as emotional energy blocks.

These blocks include our core issues – our childhood wounds and limiting behaviour patterns.

Intimate relationship and sexuality are both powerful pathways to our wounded Inner Child who unconsciously controls our adult selves, keeping us in fear and contraction, limiting our capacity to relate in a healthy manner. When we heal our Inner Child they can be a never ending source of spontaneity and fun, a real bonus to creating lively relationship and rewarding sex!

In Tantra we work with clearing the emotional energy pathways of the body by bringing awareness to these issues and allowing them to heal. This practice enhances our capacity for self acceptance and love and opens us to more opportunities to experience bliss.

For Spiritual Growth

As it becomes more apparent that the satisfaction of our material desires does not bring us more peace, love and true contentment, more and more people are seeking to experience that which is beyond the material.

Practicing the four principles of Tantra:

  • coming into the present moment
  • opening our hearts
  • dissolving our attachment to our ego and
  • merging with the Divine within

This allows us to have a direct experience of our spirituality, opening us to love, happiness, gratitude, intuition and wisdom. We feel the magic of our life force energy more readily, creating opportunities for bliss – both in lovemaking and in life.

Regular experiences of bliss allow us to approach life with gratitude and enthusiasm, motivated by love rather than fear. Our Weekend Workshops [insert link] assist with more awareness and skills for Tantric lovemaking.

For improved Health and Wellbeing

Tantra takes a holistic approach, encouraging deep breathing, relaxation, meditation and clearing of emotional energy blocks in the body. The result is decreased stress levels and consequently the decrease of many stress related illnesses. Making love on a regular basis is widely believed to have significant health benefits.

More effective communication and intimacy skills result in more resilience in relationships. Improved self esteem results in a greater level of self efficacy. Living in the present moment where life actually happens makes life more vibrant and facilitates the making of conscious choices.

More experiences of happiness and gratitude allow us to become more accepting of ourselves and others.

There is much to be gained in a closer look at your sexuality. It is a lifelong love affair.

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