Sexual Breathing brings more pleasure and more connection…
Start simply…breathe in down to your belly, breathe out through your mouth…this is the beginning of Sexual Breathing.
Once comfortable breathe in all the way down to your genitals, breathe out through your mouth…
Then squeeze your pelvic floor muscles as you inhale and relax them as you exhale…
Keep coming back to this practice, whether you are making love, self pleasuring, driving the car or sitting on the back verandah with a cuppa.
In lovemaking actively play with your breath
Sexual Breathing is consciously playing with your breath. Speeding your breath up increases your pleasure (build up slowly if you’re new to it), breathing fully and deeply spreads your pleasure through your body as it relaxes. Nb. You create room for more pleasure in a relaxed body than in one full of tension, especially as you get close to orgasm. This is true for both men and women. It might seem to fade a little at first as you relax, that’s just because it’s spreading. Keep breathing and relaxing and your pleasure will come back stronger! Once you go into orgasm take short sharp breaths to keep your pleasure going longer. This also reduces the ‘owie’ oversensitive feeling on your clitoris.
Get a little more fancy (and more powerful) here:
The Feminine & Masculine Breaths
Sexual Breathing begins with the Feminine Breath, as this is an energy building (or receptive) breath.
The Masculine Breath is a discharging breath so it makes sense to build your energy first.
Then you can try a free breath which combines both…
Try it alone first, then with your partner, one doing the feminine and the other masculine breath.
The Feminine Breath:
Lie on the floor or the bed on your back with your feet flat on the floor or bed with your knees up and leaning in a little. Your feet are up near your hips, and your sacrum is contacting the ground. Stay relaxed. Move very slowly. As you flatten your lower back your pelvis curls up. Add a deep inhalation as you do so. this in breathe is in through the mouth, breathing energy into the Yoni. Breathe all the way up to the chest. Expand the chest and then expand more. Draw the shoulders back and apart and inhale more. Take in everything you can imagine needing on your inhalation, on your breath. Take in all you have ever missed out on receiving on your inhalation. Take in so much so you feel totally full. Keep the inhale larger than the exhale..
Breathe out through the nose, constricting the throat slightly and sighing or making an “mmm” sound. As you breathe out slowly release the pelvic curl to sink into the ground, arching your lower back as you do so. Let go, let go, surrender all control. Visualize or feel the energy moving up from the pelvis and radiating out the heart. Pause at the bottom of the exhale.
Repeat at your own pace for 5 to 10 minutes, breathing in everything you need.
Allow the body to shake or orgasm if it wants to, allow feelings to come, but return to the breath as soon as you can whatever else is going on. Pause, rest and observe your feelings for a few minutes.
The Masculine Breath:
Keep your knees up but allow your legs to fall apart slightly. Feet are still up near your hips. Continue to move very slowly with the pelvic curl but in the reverse direction to what you’ve just done. Tilt the pelvis down (or arch the back, pressing the sacrum into the ground) as you breathe into the heart. Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth making the exhale bigger than the inhale.
Pause at the top of the inhale and slowly curl the pelvis up, flattening your lower back as you exhale out through the genitals with an open mouth, making a “ha” sound. Let everything go on the exhale.
Repeat at your own pace for 5 to 10 minutes, slowly moving your pelvis together with the breath.
Using either the masculine or the feminine movement, breathe both in and out through the mouth, more rapidly, keeping up a steady pace.
Or simply let go of all technique and let your body breathe and rock as it desires to.
Pause. Cease all and feel your body/mind. Lie quietly and notice what you’re experiencing.
You can use this as a sexual warm up or as a meditation.
Once you feel comfortable with your breathing invite your partner to join you, and breathe in the opposite way to each other. Breathe in and out together but one in masculine style and one in feminine. Your connection will flow quickly and powerfully. Enjoy!
You can add in a few Feminine/Masculine breaths anytime to add some juice to your love play.
NB. It is particularly valuable for women who generally breathe in the masculine style, or who find themselves in a masculine role to practice the Feminine Breath to nurture and re energise yourself.
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