Understanding the difference between Friction Sex Vs Energetic Sex
If you would like to begin exploring a more deeply satisfying sexual experience then begin by understanding the difference between friction sex and energy sex.
Friction sex is about two physical surfaces rubbing against each other over and over with a build up of body tension until a peak is reached and the tension is released. This is a pleasurable but ultimately limited approach as there are only so many ways and times you can do it before it becomes overly predictable and requiring more friction to get the same response as the skin becomes desensitized and numbed out. And it keeps you in your Ego Brain focussed on performance and attached to outcomes.
A word about stress relief– sex is often seen as a very effective stress reliever but if you use sex for this reason you’re short changing yourself. The pleasure you feel in the release of your stress is not true orgasmic pleasure and is much less than you are capable of. You will get much more pleasure if you can relax at the beginning of sex rather than just at the end, and we’ll show you how to do this.
Energy sex is where there is limited friction or even no friction. Where the two surfaces rub less and exchange energy between them. You can try this by experimenting with your own body. Move one hand lightly over your other arm, finding a pace and depth of touch that allows you to feel a slight buzz or tingling between the two surfaces, this is the energy exchange happening. Continue to do so and begin taking some deeper breaths into your belly, exhaling out of your mouth. This allows your body to relax and your energy to spread as your breath is an energy driver. In energy sex you relax at the beginning rather than at the end, as energy flows better through relaxed muscles. You can see this by moving your hand hard and quickly for a few moments- how different does it feel? Go back to light, relaxed touch, move your hand up over your shoulder, through your hair, around your face and explore how it feels without any agenda other than to see what happens. You will feel your body awakening to the touch. In lovemaking the same thing will happen to your whole body, brain and beyond, and to your partner’s as well as it opens up the spontaneous, creative, pleasure feeling part of your brain that has no agenda.
If you’re wondering by now does this mean the end of other types of sexual experiences from the quickie in the broom closet to playing with vibrators, watching porn or experimenting with full array of naughty sexual possibilities then of course the answer is not at all. It simply means if you bring these empowering heart opening tools into other types of play they’ll be even better.