What exactly is this ‘ecstasy’?
We would define it as the continuous experience of the Divine achieved by transcendence of the ego (Latin; ex = to stand out of, stasis = a state of being).
This is, most likely, a natural state that we inhabit as an infant. Gradually, our social conditioning and the wounds of childhood erode this state of being. Eventually, our capacity for wonder, our absolute confidence and openness to the world, and the freedom of our heart, fold up and close down tightly.
Stanislov Groth, in Beyond the Brain, speaks of Tantric ecstasy as being “characterized by extreme peace, tranquility, serenity, and radiant joy. The individual involved…experiences a blissful, tension-free state, a loss of ego boundaries and an absolute sense of oneness with nature, with the cosmic order, and with God. A deep intuitive understanding of existence and a flood of various specific insights of cosmic relevance are characteristic for this condition.”
Innocence and capacity for wonder
With ecstasy unveiled through the processes experienced in Tantra, we see people regain and, hopefully, retain their capacity for wonder. Returning to this childlike state is the door that reopens the heart.
We believe it is this possibility to which Christ referred in the Biblical quote, “Unless ye be as children, shall ye enter the kingdom of Heaven.”
It is this reclaiming of our innocence, with the wisdom of maturity that constitutes a Divine state of being.
Ecstasy unveiled with another
If you can do this simultaneously with another human being in a loving and sexual context, it is absolutely magical. Almost all of us have been there at some time in our lives, and we all want to go back as often as possible. When two beings are connected at the body, mind,
heart and soul all at the same place at the same time it is truly magical. When you are connected with yourself at this level it is truly magical. Tantra teaches the techniques which make it possible to achieve this bliss.
The ability to access moments of this innocence and childlike state makes us deeply available to ourselves, each other and to life as we are without barriers (yet still with healthy adult discernment).
One of the paradoxes of Tantra is that it’s all about technique, and eventually, it’s about no technique. The more you do eventually the less you need to do. It is opening to innocence.
As powerful as these states of ecstasy unveiled are, they are still just part of the picture. It is how you integrate them with wisdom, in the service of your heart and self awareness in your daily life that counts, that gives them true meaning. Otherwise it is just a more exotic way of scratching itch.